I am really wondering how to get through a relationship when you are much more successful than the other party. Say for instance, you are kickin' it with a really nice guy who has never had a steady job, and has been working on the same degree for like 7 years, a super duper senior. You, on the otherhand, are a salaried employee with benefits and your own place and degree. Most articles in magazines only discuss this issue regarding how to deal with a man who is insecure with this type of situation, but let's also be realistic, there is a new wave of man mooches out there, and guys who are more than content with their woman picking up the tab, as well as their asses from their mama's crib on the daily. So, what about us? How do we deal with such a situation? Regardless if the guy is an extremely nice person, the fact that you have to constantly "hold him down until he get's paid" can wear very thin, very quick, to the point where you just outright have a funky attitude.
Here's what I came up with...I think as long as your guy is very aware of his financial situation and is vastly trying to improve it, in addition to making sure that he is going over and beyond with his other "contributions", you won't get annoyed, and the difference in economical status shouldn't be an issue. When I say other "contributions", I basically mean...If you have to be atm machine, then he damn sure better be opening the doors for you, offering to take out your garbage, protecting you rather than leaving you to fend for yourself in a robbery, lol, cooking hamburger helper, massaing feet with our without corns (if with corns, with no complaints or smart ass comments), etc. Basically, Every masculine trait the woman possesses outside the relationship , such as making more money, must be balanced out with a masucline trait for the man inside the relationship. Also, when you go out, maybe you have to get the bill at a more expensive venture, but make sure he picks up the check when you do things like pizza and movies. But ladies, there are some things we have to work on as well...If you know your guy is doin side work for his uncle, why in the hell are you trying to go to a fancy restaraunt every weekend? Switch up your outings, maybe do one expensive thing a month, and keep the rest light. The only goal should be to have fun, whether you are spending 200 bucks or 20 bucks. We all know that a late night trip to Popeye's and the liquor store can be just as satisfying as a fancy pasta dish and wine at a restaraunt. If you are the dominant earner in the couple, you don't neccessarily have to downplay your accomplishments, but don't make the fact that you have a bigger income a constant issue, otherwise you'll set yourself up to feel resentful, and your significant other will feel like a child. There has to be a level of respect where both of you feel the other is contributing is some way.
Well girlies, i'm signing out, I can't stay up too late. I do have a job that I cannot lose due to tardiness, otherwise, I will be the one footing the bill for the 5 pc. dark with biscuits and a side of mashed potatoes and gravy, mmmmm...
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