Is it just me or do other young professional women find themselves taking a quick look at his, you know…left ring-finger? I would have to say this habit began after graduating from college. It was then that I became a more avid user of facebook and a new member of MySpace—you know, to remain connected to the wonderful group of friends I made in college. Well little did I know that graduation was the official welcome sign for another phase in life, marriage. On many occasions, while looking at my peeps profile pics from time to time, I found myself saying, “She got MARRIED!?”Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against marriage, or those that have gotten married, but as I look at these pictures, they seem to do something to my nature. I mean, it wasn’t until after seeing those pictures do I glance at a man’s finger. It’s like those magazines that picture skinny-assed women as the ideal standard of beauty. For some reason, those wedding pics are doing the same. With all my married friends, engaged friends, or friends in serious relationships, I begin to question my own status. WTF is wrong with me?
After slapping myself silly, I realized, nothing. I am young, intelligent, attractive (and I can cook). It was from that point forward, I began to study my newly formed habit of looking at a man’s left ring-finger. Here is what I came up with:
1. Your friends have gotten married, and now you feel as if you should be too. Just like those damn popular stilettos everyone seems to have, why is it that I don’t have a pair yet? You head to the store because…
2. You are interested in what the market looks like. Just like any tangible item you consider taking home with you, a pair of black-leather stilettos or a man, you like to consider your options. Glancing at the finger to learn their status is your way of knowing if the good ones are still around. This buys you time. But then, you come across ‘the’ pair of stilettos…
3. Do I get ‘em? –is what I often ask myself when confronted with an extraordinary pair of black-leather stilettos. You try them on for size, they feel alright. You stroll through the store isle to test em out. But, you will not know for sure until they are home with you and you’ve really spent some time with them. Little did you know—they would irritate your big toe. Just like a man, you assess their initial impression on you; he’s a cool cat. You go out with him a couple of times, opens the doors for me –check plus; offers to pay for the bill – check plus; GREAT in bed – check PLUS PLUS! Move in together; bad bad bad call. A self declared man mooch. By the time you get around to this stage, you feel as if you wasted your time on this dude, and your money on the shoes! Moving on with your life…
4. You are running into the department store one day to get a belt, when you do a double take on what appears to be the finest, most exquisite man ever made…you don’t care if he’s a stiletto a whole size too small or a dog, you’re takin’ this one home! And the cycle repeats itself…
Ladies, the lesson is…there is no rush. The market will always be there, and is ever-changing. No need to feel the pressure of finding a man, being in a relationship, or rushing into marriage! Enjoy the silly little moments of innocent flirting. Look at the man’s finger, and if he catches you, slip him a lil’ smile and a quick wink. This is what being single is all about! Years from now, when you do get married, you will wish you had these moments back. At least, that is what I have been told.
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