Ladies, I hate to say but yes, it’s come to this. We can no longer wait for a man to approach us, sweep us off our feet and have instant thoughts that he is the man of our dreams. It’s time to turn the other cheek and just as you would seek advice for that perfect job, try these places to seek or at find least a guy…well he may not be perfect, an NBA player but damn let’s hope he at least has a car.
Pick #1 Home Depot
Well, well, well, I thought I was creative here but after doing a little research seems like some of you have been on this seek-out for a minute. In my opinion it’s still a good seek out why: because it has manly things, stuff that we women could care less about. The hammers, the power-tools, building supplies; your conscious should scream: “ THESE MEN HERE MUST BE GREAT WITH HANDS.” Yippie! In addition some perks for us ladies is that this place does have a Garden Center and paint colors that are made by clothing designers like Ralph Lauren’s, sweatshirt gray, and scholar green. C’mon I know you’ve been dying to re-decorate your bathroom.
Pros: Visiting the garden center won’t make it look too obvious that you’re on a manhunt.
Cons: Since the men that frequent Home Depot are obviously on a mission to get things they really need, like a front door or some wood…chances are they may not look their best. So, be prepared for MAN X who has a lawn mowing service to approach you and smell like grass and manure.
Outfit suggestions: Unwrap your hair, throw on a little lip-gloss, hoop earrings, cute sneakers and a form fitting sweat-suit.
2nd Pick – Car Wash, Oil Change Places
I’m thinking along the line of Jiffy Lube, All Tune-lube . Please disregard that fact that’s probably what your body needs at the moment. When your car has hit that 3-month time frame look in Sunday’s paper cut the coupons for oil-changes and carwashes $$$$$money saving tip$$$$$ and handle your business. Also use same approach when going to get your car wash. Note: any car wash that bears the name of a street 79th street car wash is bound to have men galore. Extra tip- If it’s a self-serve car wash, pack your own supplies i.e. Towels, armor oil, air fresheners, the men may see that you are really into cleaning your car and possibly try to borrow some of your stuff. Hint* If they are cute share…if not tell them to get lost and get their own…
Pros: Men love doing preventive maintenance and making sure that their Rims are shiny.
Cons: Squeegee man may approach you or the guy with the raggedy whip.
Outfit Choice: Fitted jeans, cute sneakers, shirt that shows cleavage, hoodie. If it’s summer replace cute sneakers with flat thong sandals. Make sure those toes are presentable.
3rd pick – Grown Men’s Basketball League
When I was in a so-called relationship, my ex-would have basketball games 3 days out of the week. While picking him up, I couldn’t help but to notice the extra-hotness’ giving my ex a dap and as I sat their wondering how come I’d never seen him before. The Grown Men’s league, (please refer to yellow pages or your city’s internet page on park’s and recreation for the actual name) is held inside a gym, but on extremely hot days they take it to the outside basketball court, and …as an added bonus some of the guys actually take off their shirts. YUMMY! It’s kind of cute to see these most of these men still have a child-hood ambition of wanting to “Be Like Mike.”
Pros: Most recreational centers offer yoga, aerobics, dance, ceramics and even cooking classes. Please I repeat: Get involved in one of these activities so that you don’t seem like a DBW… desperate black woman.
Cons: When you’re coming out of that aerobics class please pack a stick of deodorant in your bag…you wouldn’t want to finally nab the cutie and he notices a stench that’s not fresh.
Outfit Choice: Casual clothing is okay since you’ll probably only see each other in passing, make sure though the casual clothing is something memorable like cute baseball cap and or nice hoodie.
4th Pick – Kenneth Cole Shoe Store
I am getting specific because if I said “The Mall” well you already know the mall harbors teenagers, baby mamas, and gangsta wannabes, but Kenneth Cole, ahh…there’s a certain clientele that shops here. Men with money & style. The average shoe, accessory, blazer or pair of cuff links starts at $50.00.
Pros: They have women’s clothing & shoes
Cons: A lot of gay-men shop here so beware of Down low Brothers, but know how to flip that con into a pro, a gay friend can turn into a great stylist.
Outfit Choice: Rip The Runway… Wear an accessory that screams: Notice Me Damnit!
5th Pick – Community Service Organizations, Career Oriented Organizations, Social Change Organizations
Community service organizations allow you to do something for the benefit of others and it’s a great opportunity for you to meet men who obviously have the same interest as you. Every city has community service organizations. Career Oriented Organizations such as NABJ (that’s if you’re into journalism) not only allow you to explore and network with men in your field, but they also hold these cool conventions were you can meet other people in various cities. Social Change Organizations such as Urban League, and your local chapter of NAACP are also places that you meet men, and it will allow you to work with them to fulfill another common goal other than sex.
Pros: I stress, that most of the men in these organizations may be established and it’s likely you will have very intellectual conversations
Cons: Watch out for those that are too militant and learn to detect bullshitters especially if you think they’re bluffing on their credentials.
Outfit Choice: Business Chic. Cute button-ups, flare leg trousers, blazers and here’s where you bust out with the pumps and banging’ handbag.
In no way am I saying that you will be able to find your dream guy… it’s time we try different approaches to meet and greet rather than going to the club or local bar every week. It’s worth a try.
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